There's a high-brow study on how conservatives deal with stuff. They can't do any of what you recommend here, Nick.

I know you're right, but the study I read says that generally conservatives can't handle uncertainty. They don't think acknowledging helplessness is good--it scares the crap out of 'em!

Their feelings are their values--you're heading nowhere with them on this one.

As for tolerating other people's painful emotions, they don't tolerate other people, period. Unless, you're just like them.

I've paraphrased badly here, but here's a link to the real deal: https://gspp.berkeley.edu/assets/uploads/research/pdf/jost.glaser.political-conservatism-as-motivated-social-cog.pdf